reaLation asks “How Assertive are you?”
Circle the response that best suits your personality. Add up the total. Results in the left column.
- 1. I avoid dealing with difficult situations involving confrontation.
- 5. Almost never
- 4. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 2. Quite often
- 1. Most of the time
- 2. I feel people take advantage of me.
- 5. Almost never
- 4. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 2. Quite often
- 1. Most of the time
- 3. Talking to people in positions of authority makes me feel nervous, self-conscious, or unsure of myself.
- 5. Almost never
- 4. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 2. Quite often
- 1. Most of the time
- 4. I feel and act self-confident
- 5. Almost never
- 4. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 2. Quite often
- 1. Most of the time
- 5. I express my opinions, even if others in the group disagree with me.
- 1. Almost never
- 2. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 4. Quite often
- 5. Most of the time
- 6. Opinionated people make me feel uncomfortable.
- 1. Almost never
- 2. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 4. Quite often
- 5. Most of the time
7. When an argument is over, I replay the situation in my head, thinking of all the things I could have said, regretting that I hadn’t thought of them then, or wishing I had the guts to say them.
- 5. Almost never
- 4. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 2. Quite often
- 1. Most of the time
8. I fear making phone calls to institutions, government agencies or businesses, because I might sound stupid if I don’t understand the instructions.
- 5. Almost never
- 4. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 2. Quite often
- 1. Most of the time
9. I am able to express my discontent with a friend or a partner if I think it’s justified.
- 1. Almost never
- 2. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 4. Quite often
- 5. Most of the time
10. I tend to be speechless when I am left alone with a person I find attractive.
- 5. Almost never
- 4. Rarely
- 3. Sometimes
- 2. Quite often
- 1. Most of the time
